I’ve missed several weeks. Several weeks. Lots have happened. First on the time line, I met a lady. Some call her Zee, and although I love her full name, I will stick to Zee to protect the innocent.
We met online, and she took a fat chance first to reply my email, and after knowing me for about a week, to meet up with me for a coffee. It was at the same time the most wonderful and dumbest occurrence ever.
Most wonderful why? Because of the type of person she is, easy to talk to, open, approachable, comfortable… she really coaxed me out of this black hole I had been finding myself in. You know, closed of between 4 walls, picking up the shards of my life in post-separation-pre-divorce stage and generally feeling very sorry for myself. She’s a ray of sunshine, no, she is the sun – I really find it difficult to be depressed when even I only think about her.
We chatted daily for the week before we met. She’s a very interesting person from a large and loving family, and herself has had many experiences, some good, some bad, but all which have contributed to the first class character that she is today.
Dumbest why? Well, at the same time as I met her, I also applied for and gained employment in China.
You see, my little boy from my recently wrecked marriage stays in Malaysia and he’s growing up with English as a 3rd language, so although he can communicate relatively well, it’s not as good as is in Hakka, a Chinese dialect, the language of his primary care giver.
So I seeked employment in Asia to be a) closer to him for visiting, and b) to be able to learn at least one of his primary languages. I would have done this before if only I could find someone that would employ me without a University degree. But that has never happened before, until of course, I met Zee.
I continued befriending her anyway, because I never thought I would fall for her as I did. It happened while we chatted really, some time before we met. The afternoon we did meet for a coffee in a crowded place the way they recommend you should meet your internet acquaintances, I was well and truly smitten. Our coffee lasted for 2 hours, mainly due to this blabber mouth being dumb-struck and Zee just being her usual comfortable self, coaxing conversation.
We had 3 more dates after that and lots of chats in between. The last time I saw her, and when I had to say goodbye for the last time, it was well and truly difficult… and that was after a mere 2 weeks.
Alas, distance is a killer. This I know.